“Owning our story can be hard but not nearly as difficult as spending our lives running from it. Embracing our vulnerabilities is risky but not nearly as dangerous as giving up on love and belonging and joy—the experiences that make us the most vulnerable. Only when we are brave enough to explore the darkness will we discover the infinite power of our light.” ~ Brené Brown
What Will I Get From Seeing A Counsellor?
Some people think that therapy is an extreme option, and that unless things get really bad you should try to manage on your own. But this isn't the case. Getting support from a therapist before you reach your lowest point can be helpful because it might feel easier to reflect on what's going on before you reach crisis point.
Sometimes, it's hard to talk to your friends and family about what is troubling you, and your reasons for not sharing your problems may be varied; we don't want to burden people; we don't want to bore people with our woes; our troubles will be too much for the people we love to cope with; they won't be interested; they won't understand; we just don't want them to know what's going on. This is where seeing a counsellor can help you. It offers you the opportunity to share what is going on for you with one person, who is going to really listen to you and focus on your needs.
There are several different theoretical and therapeutic approaches to counselling. But what they all have in common is a collaborative process based on the relationship between you and your counsellor. This therapeutic relationship provides you with a supportive space to help you to talk openly about your thoughts and feelings to a non-judgemental counsellor who listens closely, hears what you are saying and helps you to interpret what is going on for you. Together, you and your counsellor work to identify what it is that underlies your current feelings. We work to change the negative thought and behaviour patterns that are making your life difficult to bear.
As the work progresses, you will begin to have unexpected and valuable insights into how you are living your life and you may be pleasantly surprised by some of the things that you start to learn about yourself. You will begin pick up and integrate into your daily life new ways of thinking and behaving that will enable you to become more resourceful and better able to cope with any future challenges that life throws at you.
Counselling does not offer a 'quick fix', but it can help you to achieve insight and understanding about why you might be struggling with life. It is through that understanding that you can learn to change your patterns of behaviour and also come to accept yourself more fully, enabling you to lead a happier, healthier and more fulfilling life.
If you are experiencing any of the following, then you could probably benefit from therapy:
You are feeling overwhelmed by what life is throwing at you
You find yourself lacking in confidence, believing that everyone else is doing better than you and more able to cope with life
No matter how much you try and how much help you get from your friends and family, your problems just don’t seem to be going away
You frequently feel helpless, sad and lacking in energy
You are feeling on edge and anxious a lot of the time
You find it hard to contain your anger
You find yourself preoccupied by what is wrong with you and find it hard to see the good in yourself
You are drinking to excess and/or using drugs to the detriment of your relationships and life
It is difficult to focus on work or your everyday life
You are finding it difficult to express your emotions or engage in loving relationships with those around you
You are finding ways to harm yourself or others either physically or emotionally
You are finding it hard to recover from the loss of a loved-one and the feelings of pain aren’t diminishing